I am still sitting at this peaceful tea table surrounded by the low lights of the candles and listening to the soothing sounds of classical music. What a refreshment.
Today at tea we continued to read “When God Writes Your Love Story”. This chapter was about God’s love – his perfect, unconditional, unchanging love. The type of love that we can only truly give to others when we have first experienced it ourselves from the Lord. God loves us through everything, in everything, despite everything. God loves us….no matter what!
He loves us when we are “bratty”, selfish, unkind, flaky, mean spirited, impatient, arrogant, controlling, bossy…..and so on.
He loves us when we are overweight, unattractive, dirty, smelly, unkempt, messy, old, grey and wrinkled.
His love is truly amazing and perfect. When two people come together who have truly experienced God’s love and as a result of that life changing moment commit to choosing to love each other with that same amazing love – you will have a marriage that is beyond anything you could have ever imagined.
Unfortunately most people’s love is limited and conditional. We only choose to love if or when they do or do not do this or that. Or we base our love on a feeling or attraction. God gave us a check list that we can use to judge ourselves and see if we are truly loving others as God loved. (1 Corinthians 13)
[ ] Are you patient and long suffering with all their inadequacies?
[ ] Do you care for their needs, wants & desires BEFORE your own?
[ ] Are you kind, compasssionate & caring?
[ ] Do you forgive easily & not keep a record of wrongs?
[ ] Are you humble and willing to give up your way of doing things?
[ ] Do you act in a becoming way and treat them with respect and honor?
[ ] Do you always look for and hope for the best?
[ ] Are you committed to the end….never looking back?
Dear darling Dan has read that scripture as he has presided over many a wedding. As the couples stare starry eyed at each other they are usually not even thinking about what those words mean & how they will play out in the months and year ahead. Often, when couples are headed for divorce court they don’t want to be reminded of the love they committed to choosing. No, at that point you hear a lot of – buts & can’ts, rationalizations & excuses – I tried…but, I wanted it to work…but, I can’t live with…, I can’t put up with…., I can’t stand….. The laundry list of grievances is long & passionatly verbalized to all who will listen. In fact the love chapter of the Bible is not only forgotten but seemingly completly erradicated from their lives.
So girls……how will you love? Will you choose a “no matter what”, “in, through & despite everything” committed love? Will you wait to find the person who will love you with that same type of love in return? I hope and pray so!
Always remember though…we can only love, because He first loved us! So look for the man who has experienced God’s love so intimately that he can love completely.