Ok…..so it’s time to face the fact – I need to lose the weight I gained during and after baby #7. Actually, I gained only 15 pounds during the pregnancy, but then added another 15 after I had Daniel. This is my typical pattern because I am so sick during pregnancy that when I finally feel good, I over indulge. (and enjoy every minute of it!) My metabolism is always whacked out too after nine months of getting sick and not eating much.
However, I have many compelling reasons to get this extra weight off:
Since I am not getting any younger (who is!?)and it becomes harder and harder to lose weight as you age – I need to do it now before I round the corner to 50! (eeek! Can that be getting close already?)
My blood pressure is not good when I am overweight – and I need it to be under good control. (and perhaps even off medication…wouldn’t that be great!)
When I am eating healthy, I feel better, have more energy and I am also more focused on exercising regularly.
The “fat clothes” in the closet are getting tight and I have no business buying any clothes – let alone a size bigger.
And last but NOT least – I have a “fat face” and I can’t stand that. These pictures are the reality and it’s time to face the facts (and the fat!)
The photo on the left was taken at a Creative Memories convention the weekend I found out I was pregnant (August 2006) and the photo on the right was taken right after Christmas (December 2007) – 30 pounds heavier. Yuk! I just don’t have a good “fat face” and after seeing this family photo I knew it was past time to do something about it. Daniel is now nine months old and I need to lose that baby fat! 🙂
I actually began a consistent exercise program (walking) and healthy dieting plan (Fat Flush) on January 2nd. I must however say that I have never liked beginning a diet and exercise program…
…in January or on a Monday!
It just all seems too much like the “norm” for me. After all how many other millions of Americans were starting a diet or joining the gym at the beginning of a new year or a new week? Being part of the “norm” has never appealed to me. I am always telling my kids that I am truly “counter culture” – no I don’t have any tattoo’s or multiple piercings – but I don’t watch TV, don’t eat fast food and I didn’t date my husband until our engagement or kiss him until the altar, to name a few areas where I am not the “norm”. I don’t aspire to be “average” either – having the average 2.5 children (although I think it has dropped to 2.09 in America) never entered my realm of thinking. (And with 7 – hopefully soon 8 – children I am quite well above average, thank you!) In school, I never wanted to be an “average” athlete, actress, singer, leader or student either. I mean after all…who actually aspires to be average?
But I digress….
Yes, I began a diet & exercise program to lose that extra 30 pounds (plus perhaps another 10-15 that I have never lost during my last 17 years of childbearing) along with the rest of the world who decided to “fight the fat” in the New Year. However, I console myself in the fact that I WILL be different than the norm because the majority of those who start the year implementing a new health plan will fizzle out within a few weeks. In fact here it is January 22 and most likely many have already quit their well intentioned resolutions.
Why will I be different?
I have compelling purpose
See the list above! I keep those things (and the pictures) ever before me so that when I am tempted to eat that peanut butter cookie during Tuesday Tea Time – I can resist and stick with the plan
The same is true with our businesses. We must have a compelling reason to work. For each person this may be different. Some may desperately need the income provided by their career….others are facing very soon a private school tuition payment, needing to purchase a new car, or a child going off to college or getting married. These things certainly should compel us to work. For others it is the desire to be at home & still make money to add to the budget. And some may be motivated by the company mission, the friends or the self fulfilment of using their skills & talents.
Find out your compelling purpose for your business and keep it in front of you spurring you on to start up & stick with it!
I won’t “give up”
Don’t think for a minute that I will not experience defeat along the way. The excuses will come — not enough time, its too hot, its too cold, its too hard, I’m too tired, just one cookie, this couldn’t hurt…..you get the idea. I will find myself at the end of a long day…not having done the very thing I committed myself to doing. But instead of quitting…I will start again the next day. By persevering, not giving up and continuing to diet and exercise despite all my excuses I will achieve my goal. But it won’t happen overnight!
I have found from my years of working with home based business owners that the biggest reason they don’t experience success….is simply giving up. We often start out strong with great resolve to be a success and then when we experience roadblocks or we sabotage our own success with excuses (the same ones….too busy, too tired, to hard) we simply STOP “exercising” our business muscles. We wait for the next motivational spurt at convention, or a meeting, and then we start the cycle over again. We simply must get into a daily habit or routine of exercising our business muscles everyday if we are going to develop a lifestyle of a successful career.
I have support and accountabilty
My family is such a great suport group – the two eldest girls at home, Kristen & Rebekah are helping to cook for me and make my salads. My dear darling Dan is always supportive and encouraging to me and I have a good friend, Nina who holds me accountable. (and visa versa) And I have just told thousands of people who read this blog that I am going to lose 30 pounds – that is sure to hold my feet to the fire!
There is an abundance of opportunities to partner up with someone who will encourage you, motivate you & even (gulp!) hold you accountable to your business. Perhaps it will be your sponsor, good friend, spouse or a business coach. Be sure to give them permission to “hold you” to your goals & plans with your business. Accountability here is the key!
I found a program that works for me
Its so important to have a plan that will fit your lifestyle. Finances prohibit me from having my Curves membership reactivated at this point but I CAN walk! And I am blessed to live right across the street from a mall so if the weather is bad, I can walk through the mall at a quick pace for 30 minutes. Now, I still don’t jump out of bed in the morning ready to go sweat & strain for 30 minutes. In fact more often than not I’m groaning & complaining in my head about how much I don’t like to exercise. But I quickly remember my compelling reasons and I head out the door…..because after all I can do anything for only 30 minutes! I also have found an eating plan that not only works for me in losing weight but is very healthy and stabilizes my blood pressure as well. (This morning it was 112/72)
You need to have a business with a plan that will work for you and your lifestyle too. There are sooooo many “plans” that can work (just like there are a zillion exercise programs, gyms, fitness centers and diets out there) The key is to find the plan that “works” for you & then DO IT consistently.
Begin today (after all its January 22 – so you won’t be the “norm”) to fight the fat or build your business (or both!)….the pay off will be worth all the pain!
PS – I’ll keep you updated since you are all now my accountability partners! Since January 2 – Total pounds lost: 15 (although five of it was just that post Christmas “I just ate two pieces of pie weight”), Exercising 5 out of 7 days a week, BP – is great & I just began cutting my meds in half and the fat clothes are no longer tight.
3 responses to “Facing the Facts (and the Fat)”
Congrats on your success so far, Beth. That is great! Have you read Jennifer Rothchilds book called “Self Talk, Soul Talk?” It’s a great book on what to say when you talk to yourself. It’s not about dieting at all, but I think you’d enjoy it and it might even help with the dieting. Also has some great principles for teaching to your children.
very inspirational! it is true you are not the norm!
i’ve been kicking around the idea and starting in january seemed so lame. But, our lives should be resolute not just our new years. So…look out!
i may be joining you.
okay, this post will probably be buried, but I’m needing something to keep me somewhat accountable. Due to a good scolding by the Dr. & being put on BP meds, I’m facing the facts & fats. I’m going to do flush after payday & being able to buy at Trader Joes & Artesia. Hmmm, I need to get one of these blog things.